Picture the life-changing road to becoming a parent: the peaks and valleys, the endless questions, the confusion about what the heck is happening in your body, the unbelievable thrill as you imagine what lies ahead. Now, take that image and double it—and then you might have an idea of what the next year holds for Pam Reynoso and Idalisse “Dali” Sepúlveda.
The couple—who are the founders behind Soft Femme, a Brooklyn-based shop that celebrates the intersection of femininity and vulnerability—recently embarked on their journey to parenthood, with a unique twist: They both plan on carrying pregnancies at the same time. And they’re already halfway there. Dali just entered her second trimester, and Pam is hoping to conceive in the coming weeks.
While the decision to try to do it all at once was certainly major, the pair knows it’s ultimately the right path for them. For one thing: “Our donor plans to retire soon, and it’s important to us that our kids share the same donor,” they share. “So it just made sense for both of us to both try within a few months of one another.”
And they have no illusions about the impending shift into overdrive. “We expect that our future is about to get very chaotic and stressful. But we know that it’s going to be full of love, and we can’t wait to be moms.”
Below, the couple shares more about how they’re preparing themselves for co-motherhood.